Tuesday, December 25, 2007

What a Holiday

Just a quick note to say how my holiday went.

Saturday at my uncle's went well. We missed out last year because the message of the date and time came too late for me to request off at work. Everyone was so happy for the beau and I making it this year, although a few made it sound like it was my choice or that I did not do enough to come out. They didn't say that really, but I can sense it in the undertones of some things they said. But otherwise it was a great evening. My sister acted a fool, like always. My aunt made a wonderful meal of ham and all the fixings.

Christmas Eve we hosted a party at our new home. The beau's mother, my parents and sister, and the roomie's parents all came by and we all had a huge dinner. It was odd having all our parents there because they just seemed to be from different lifestyles and generations. I think it was a humbling experience for my dad. My parents loved the place and my dad liking it really surprised me. Usually, he's the first one with criticisms but everything out of his mouth was positive. The night ended with the roommate's boys opening all their gifts with the central gift being a game table with pool, air hockey and ping-pong options. I might just make use of that. : P

We also deep-fried our first turkey. Twas quite an experience. Went rather smoothly considering I was bombarding the beau with "what ifs." Quite tasty I have to say as well. I'm not sure I'm gonna say it was worth all the money we spent to prepare for it, but the experience did.

Christmas day we went to the beau's family dinner and it went well also. His sister's boys are growing up fast...already 19 and 21. Time flies.

We then proceeded onto my family's official dinner. Not really anything special. A decent dinner my sister made, not great...a whole lot of canned foods. The atmosphere was a complete turn-around from years past though. Everyone was in a pleasant and cheerful mood. It's usually awkward for some reason, but everything was my relaxed.

This holiday I came out with a lot of money for gifts. I'm kind of disappointed at that considering I'm probably going to be using it for bills. Bah, I'd rather get a tea-cozy or a gift card...so I don't have to feel this need to use the cash for responsible needs.

The highlight gift actually came from my dad this year. I asked for a mini-fridge for our new home and by gosh he got one. I haven't seen it yet because he didn't bring it to my mom's due to the rain. But whatever the size or shape, it will definitely be useful! We're going to run by his house sometime tomorrow with the beau's truck to pick it up.

Sorry for the quick post without a whole lot of description. I need to be heading to bed soon. Have to be at work at 4am in the morn. It's funny, the holiday decorations went up immediately after Halloween but can't stay out a hair after the 25th.

Oh wells, hope you all had a great holiday!!

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Thursday December 20th

I love when you pay for a trail/breakfast mix and what you really get is raisins with a little bit of something else tossed in there.

But anyways, I got alot of cleaning and chores finished yesterday. Everything bill-wise came to a halt with me because the beau needs to have a hand finishing them.

Financial times are going to be tough I know that much. After shelling out the large sum we needed for the deposit and prorated rent for the month last week, we only had my meager check to pay for what should have been paid last week. And I only say meager becuase my check is the one that gets all the insurance taken out of it...so it's definitely the lower of the two. *sigh*

Needless to say we're going to be living on bird crumbs. Well, really we're not because I went grocery shopping. But because I went grocery shopping we're going to be living with like nothing until the beau's next check. I had to sit and meditate after realizing what I had done. We did need the food since I had not been food shopping in ages it seems like.

On the brighter side I did get our part of the house super clean. I mopped, vacuumed, and dusted and it really didn't feel like it took all that much time. Having the actual room to get about and easily clean everything totally makes a difference versus tripping and climbing over all kinds of things trying to achieve the same.

I'm back on my regular gym schedule starting monday of this week and it feels great. The gym I moved to is not as busy as the others and so I get quality time with all my favorite machines, benches and dumbbells.

I got to be heading to work here in a second. Wish me luck in this coming week and bring me wishes of great fortune ^^

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Checking Your Cards

ahh... finally back into a regular pattern of living. The majority of boxed necessities have been unpacked and my life has begun to take back some normalcy.

We finished moving things about Wednesday and then spent the rest of the week up until Friday cleaning the new place. We, meaning the beau and I, the roomie only came to the house on the Wednesday. She did a lot that day but still it was kinda minuscule compared to what the beau and I ended up doing. Same thing for the moving process. But I'm not worried about that whole ordeal. We're in a better place and a better way of life. It's going to be more expensive but it definitely feels better. Both in my everyday, personal, and spiritual life.

From Friday on it's been basically me unpacking and building the beau and mine's space in the house. He dealt with the electronics and I've dealt with everything else. Which I don't mind considering it's what I like to do. I'm the one who's supposed to know where everything is and so it just makes sense.

I can't tell you how long it's been since I've felt this much personal space...well, I guess I could. Since April of last year when we moved into the small house with the roomie and the boys. Love them, but as in the words of the roomie, having everyone "on top of each other" wasn't very conducive to good feelings in the house. The whole place felt liked a brewing volcano and you all can probably relate to that with the whole meltdown the beau and I had. We almost broke up and split during our time in that house. It just goes to show that it really does depend on situation how people deal with things. In this new place, with the great open personal space that is separated from the others we are connecting much like we used to.

We may not be interacting with the roomie and the kids as much as we used to because we have the advantage of being able to close a door and still be able to enjoy anything that we want, but they have a considerable amount of control over their part of the house now too. It's now up to them how they decide to take advantage of that considering the beau isn't there to make a considerable impact on most of it. The roomie confided to me that she is happy with the move so I'm confident that everything is all well.

Our pup, T.J., couldn't be happier. A wide expanse of land to run around in and without the need for scolding. She has a large expanse of area to run and play and explore and I don't have to worry about her running into the road or someone's yard. So nice.

Tonight became a "Survivor: China" finale party for me. This has been my favorite season since "Cook Islands". I am SO happy Todd won, he totally deserved it. If I were in his shoes I would have played it the same exact way. I'm the smallest and I wouldn't be winning too many physical challenges. He played the mental and game portion to the T and I commend him for that. I'm a kindred spirit and wish Todd well.

I am just so thrilled to be able to start my everyday activities again. I can go back to my regular workout schedule and not the sporadic one I've been working with since beginning the move. I can come straight home and not have to worry about going to the other place to load, pack or clean. I don't have to worry about calling places to change my address or let multitudes of people know where they can find me.

It's a good feeling. And from the great energy I'm feeling from the place, I believe we'll be here for a long time. The beau and I have had the best energy between us and I've actually been able to reach a state of calm that I have not been able to reach for a very long time. My mind has been able to focus and free itself of all outside distractions. It's been very hard to that with an 8 and 9 year old moping, whining and complaining.

I'm thankful for this place and how it's changed my life and outlook in such a short amount of time. Alot of times it just proves that it may not be your relationship at odds, just the situation you are in. Make sure to look at all your cards before you play them. ^^

Thursday, December 6, 2007

Moving- Days Three through Six

Well, let me tell you that moving the majority of two separate families items from that small house has been a bigger task than even I have suspected. Monday and Tuesday we worked to finish up the garage full of items and then moving a lot of the bulk stuff for the roomie and her boys. These days both the beau and I were working during the day, so we were not able to get to the moving till later in the evening.

Wednesday comes along and I had planned to have the day off because the cable guy was supposed to be coming to turn on the cable, phone and internet here at the new place. The set time was supposed to be between 1-3pm. I set up one load at the other house and came back to the new house (we had planned on being able to sleep in the new house that night), set up everything accordingly for the beau and unpacked some things while awaiting the arrival of the beau around 9am or so.

The beau gets there about 930ish and he sets up the electronics I sat out for him so that we can make sure the cable and junk works when it is finished. By the time we're finished with all our tasks, we see it's 1130 and we're not sure we can get to the old house, load up, and be back within an hour and a half. I unpack some more and the beau goes out to blow leaves, fix the toilet and lubricate some squeaky hinges.

Long story short on this day, the cable guy was supposed to be here between 1-3pm.

3pm came and no cable guy.
I call cable company to find out what's going on.
As I'm on hold I get a beep from an unknown number.
I don't answer it since I'm hold.
Nice lady I'm talking to tells me that the person is going to be between 30-45min late.

I think to myself, it's already 3oclock and past the two hour grace period given. I'm a schedule-minded person myself and I'm going crazy at this point. This is my last day off this week and the day I was meant to get a load of moving done! I've been here since 1130 waiting on the guy and it's now 3pm and no sign of him.

The dude finally shows at around 4ish.
Takes till close to 8pm to get everything finished with all the weird wiring around the place.

Recap.

My day off meant to be moving tons of stuff was spent from 1130-8pm under the spell of the cable guy. The beau had to be there because he has all the technical know-how and knows what needs to be done, and I had to be there because the account's in my name and I had to sign for the thing when it was finished. So *sigh*, we were both stuck.

I was nearly crying by the end of this whole stint because I thought there was no way in heck we'd get back to the old house, load up all our beds and be able to clean up and sleep in the new place.

Frustrated with the total waste of a day off I had, I was so aggravated that everything that I had planned to get done was so feebly taken over by something I thought was so simple as turning on the cable.

I end up deciding to call my superior at work and see if he'll give me tomorrow off to do what I couldn't get done on that day.

I was so in luck because he totally let me have it off.

Thursday.

The beau is tired and needs some additional rest before running out to the house again. He's had three back surgeries and today's main task consists of the refridgerator and washer/dryer. Not easy on the back to say the least.

We get to the house and load up a ton more than what I had expected to get at such a late time. And by the time I'm sitting here typing this we have pretty much everything of substantial importance here and in use. It feels good.

I'm very lucky to have my hard-working beau, co-workers who can understand the rare real-life concerns I may have, and the focus I have in organization and planning things out.

I really need to head to bed as I need to be at work at 6 and this will be the first time I've tried making the trip from the new place.

Thanks for reading the post. Not too insightful, just a retelling of the highlights of the past few hellacious days.

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Moving- Day Two

Officially this should probably be "moving- day three" but friday I spent most of the day just packing and didn't really move anything at all. Saturday we got most of those things out, as you read.

Forgive me as I'm just a tad bit delirious. I waited till after moving all day, coming home, running out to the store, picking up dinner, watch "America's Most Smartest Model", "The Amazing Race 12", "Desperate Housewives", and "The Shot" before typing this. I technically should be in bed right now considering I have to be up by 5am but what the heck. I need to keep my updates going. lol. I just didn't think about it till right now.

Today went really well. We finished up the cleaning out the garage and then added in getting alot of the boys' things moved over there. We also cleaned out the roomie's and most of our closets as well. It doesn't sound like much but I wish I really had got a picture of our garage and the multitude of things that were living there. Hopefully, at our new much larger space they will find life past sitting in a cold space.

I am so excited that my comic books get to come back out in the open. They've been living in boxes insider our closet for these past months and it's been killing me. I can't wait to put them back on the shelves and be able to pull them out for re-reading.

We all have to go back to work tomorrow but we may end up moving more stuff tomorrow. Right now the plan is to do more packing in preparation for Tuesday evening moving. But we could also come in and start unpacking the items we've already put into place there. For me, personally, I can't see organizing anything until we move the items we use regularly. All we've really moved is the stuff that went into forced hibernation because of our space restrictions.

I let the beau know that once all our regular stuff is in place. Then, the extra un-needed items can be worked into the space. Doesn't make much sense to do it without that. Although I could stand to work some closet-management. Many of the things may end up living there so designating space would be advantageous early.

But, seriously I may spend most of tomorrow packing some more. I have a ton of books to pack up. Finish cleaning up the closet and packing up the computer desk and my work area. Long days ahead indeed.

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Moving - Day One

Today we officially started our move to the new house. While the beau was off to pick up the truck to do the moving, I slept in a tad and then cleaned the dishes. Just after I finished he popped back in with the vehicle and we went to empty the garage as the first order of business.

Having a couple and a mother with two kids in the small house that we were sharing forced us to keep alot of our packed stuff stored in the house's single car garage. It is truly the rougher of all the rooms to move as there is a ton of stuff there. We got over 2/3rds of the whole thing done today and all the bulk stuff. We're very proud of our progress. I've never seen the garage this empty since we first moved in.

We arrived at the house and a friend of the beaus was there helping the owner load up the few things of his left inside the house. They were talking about some things and I let TJ out and let her wander the area. This is the first time she'd been to the new place since we've had a key.

She first visited it when we were just getting a feel for whether we wanted to pursue the place or not. As soon as she found the beau and was content that he knew she was there, she went zipping all over the place. Traveling all around the house, exploring the yard and deck. When she went inside it was so cute. She checked every room and nook in the house. When she found a window she'd look through it. When there was a door, she'd go through it. It was so funny. But I think she approves.

We started to unload it all. Most of the stuff stayed inside the new garage but there were a few things of ours that we were able to pull into our new bedroom. The bedroom at the old place was quite small for us and a bit of our furniture had to live in the garage.

Here, the master bedroom is as large as our old living room and dining room combined. Plus, our walk-in closet is HUGE (my favorite thing about the house). I'm actually planning on getting an ottoman to set inside so that we can sit and dress inside. It'll be so much more convenient!

These few things mentioned earlier found homes in various parts of our new room and it started to feel like home even more. There's an old blue couch the beau has had for ages and we were finally about to bring it out of it's forced retirement. Sitting in it together again felt real good. The move definitely feels right.

The house itself is 2400sq ft. compared to about 1200sq ft at the old place, we're essentially doubling our living space. The beau and I can enjoy private time within the confines of our own space (which is really a small apartment in it's own right), and the roomie and her kids have room to spread out and be able to do things without feeling like they're tripping over us and everything in their path. Very nice.

The yard itself is huge as well. Lots of trees surround the property and is just beautiful. Every inch of the yard is covered with leaves and it's a beautiful sight. The kids will have a great time in this yard and the seclusion will aid us in our sanity and love of the land. I can't wait to be able to extend my space out onto the deck and eventually onto the northern side of the yard. It is totally set up like it was just made for me and my plans!

And finally a pic of myself taken in front of our bedroom's bathrooms mirror. Our bathroom is the poo too. Nice large tub (might I mention I can actually soak in this tub unlike all the rinky-dink tubs I've experienced in all my other living environments) with sweet jet effects. dual sinks with a nice large mirror. Full-length mirrors on the back of the bedroom and closet doors. And heck, enough floor space in it that I'm planning on getting a mini-fridge to store our spirits and mixers so that the roomie and kids don't have to work around them. I'm so super excited and wish I was already in it.

Only bad part of the day was that my knee injury showed it's ugly head during the process. When the weather drastically changes from warm to cool rather quick, my knee will act up and feel like it's gonna pop from the backside. Back in elementary school, I was playing basketball during phys.ed. and ended up tripping and falling straight onto my knee. It's acting up more now than before. After my rest tonight, it'll be fine.

But alas, we have a few more days of moving. I will have to be a bit more patient and know that by this coming Wednesday we should be sharing our new home together.

On the Brink

Tomorrow officially starts the grand move to the new place. I am super excited about all the options coming with the extra space this home will give us. I won't be naive to the fact that finances may be tight going into this but I know we'll get through it.

I've done quite a bit of packing today and will be for the next few days. Happily the packing won't be as much as last time considering the place we're in is kinda small and we really didn't unpack a whole lot, the extra unimportant stuff has still ben sitting in the garage over this time. We'll finally be able to bring the board games out again!

Being back at the gym has made me feel great! My body is reacting great to the shock and my confidence and sanity is back. It's wonderful the effect and hour of lifting will do for stress.

Since the roomie is on a road trip to pick up her boys from their father in Wisconsin, and the beau was at work today...I was able to have a day by myself. I practically spent the day naked and loved every minute of it.

I totally would be au natural all the time if I could. It's comforting and just...natural.

When the beau came home we went out for a great dinner at one of my favorite restaurants. I still ate well, but had a great change from the ordinary. We then went to a local store to look for reading glasses. He got him a pair and I picked up a pair of sunglasses for my glasses. They fit so well despite my frames being oval and them being a rectangle. Much better than the clip on sunglasses I've been using. If I put them on too low the ends of the clips tickle my nose and I hate that.

I'm still looking for a piece of furniture to act as my new altar at the new place. I want it to feel perfect..but sadly perfect has to be within a certain price range. It's hard working on a budget but I'll do it. Now that I have a distinct altar area at the new place, my dresser just isn't going to do. Here's hoping the moves go well and all falls into line!